Time flying. Bye Bye 2010

26 Dec 2010. wau, I just realize, time is flying. 2010 almost end and I feel that I really don't know what I had done for this year.

A friend told me this morning, hey, you didn't update your blog quite some time already. :) ya, he is true, I found that I was very very busy this year, with work, struggle in the stranger land and trying to suit myself in this new environment.

A lot of things happened this year, solving problem, creating problem. hehehe.. But I am doing ok here. I miss home a lot, miss my friends but I choose to do whatever I am doing now. And I believe, I need to give up something in order to take something. However, I am trying to find a way, a way to fulfill my desire and a way to make myself happy.

I think, think positive, smile more. That will make people happy. =)

Away from City - 2D1N@Port Dickson

I updated my facebook that I want holiday, who knows the following week, I was in Port Dickson with my colleagues. I guess, they hear me. =)

It just a short trip, not really plan for everything because we just decided to go there the day before. Spend 2D 1N at very nice apartment suite, located at top floor of the hotel, Regency. 4 bedrooms with 4 bathrooms with nice view.

I like this, always dream that I have a house that can have a grand view from top

Nice view from balcony

Here is my colleagues

Ang's wife- Hooi Hooi, Ang, Ang's daughter-Ang Shin, Menchie, Rebecca, Ronald, Shan...
and me - took the photo. =)

While waiting, let's took one.

How can we miss this moment - Sunset from Port Dickson.

We drink, chit chat, play poker at night. Everyone is drunk and Ang is the winner, won everyone's money because his 2 rules. Rule#1: Never lost; rule#2: Always remember rule#1.

I recharge. Although nothing there in Port Dickson and we spend most of our times in hotel but at least away from city and have a good moment with colleagues.

some updates

Can't believe my last blog update was November 8 2009. I am very busy recently, a lot of tasks need to be done within a very short period of times. It is really stress.

When I woke up in the morning, I have this feeling, not feel like wanna work today and I know this is not a good feeling. People don't appreciate the things and effort that you put in and that make me feel like what should I care about them, timeline? schedule? That is your problem, not mine.

But I change my mind because that is not my way of doing things and I almost can't recognise who am I. Yes, you not appreciate, but be a team member, I should align with the project timeline and objective. :)

My KL life

Almost 2 months here, in KL and finally I have settled down. Found a nice condo to stay although way back to my condo always jam. I have nice and easy going housemates, a group of colleagues that willing to help each others, we hang out quite often and shared a lot.

I change my perspective on KL, it is not as bad as what I thought. The only thing that worried me is the road sign, I am afraid of getting lost, can't find my way back. But luckly, still ok and get familiar with the area that I stay. I guess when you are alone out there, will be more alert to everything.

Frankly, I like KL. A lot of varieties and opportunities and that make me spend a lot. :) Have to control more on that, else will be broke every month. :p

I was regret when I first came here. A lot of unhappy things happened, work is not per what I expected, car broke down, can't find room and etc... etc.. But who knows, I like KL now. :) Tough times dont't last, right. I should happy as I been given a chance to go through that and it make me a tough person.

Balance

Someone is struggling, hoping can live longer, get well from illness;
someone is struggling, which car is going to buy.

someone is struggling, there is not enough food to eat;
someone is struggling, how to lose the extra pound.

Sometimes I just wondering, how to find the balance in between?

其实我很幸福

最近其实蛮空档的，不旦是工作，生活也一样。朋友都说，为什么不用那空档的时间，好好学一些东西，读多一些文章也好。说真的，除了工作需要以外，其实我没什么兴趣想学什么经济学，管理学的，因为我觉得，人生除了工作所要的知识之外，还有其它。


所以我喜欢看看别人的部落格，找一些好地方，吃也好，旅游也好，一些可以启发我的想法也好，因为做一些自己想做的事情，人才会开心。也想看看别人是怎样生活的。最近也开始看书，多数都是一些激励的书，需要思考类型的书，一天几篇，细心的看，用心的想。有时候，反而觉得，把时间花在这样的生活也不赖。


看了几个部落格，发现每一个人都很认真的生活，很用心的让自己的人生留点什么。不埋怨，不乱发脾气，就用一种很从容的态度面对。之前，我的生活是多么的一团糟，甚至看的，读的东西都是一样糟，可是，最近我突然发觉，人的心态转变了之后，所发生在我身上的事情也开始不一样了。就连陌生人也变得那么地亲切，可爱。那几个“陌生”的朋友，都是学瑜伽的，是不是学瑜伽的人，生活都是那么的平静。：）“陌生”是因为大家从来都没有见过面甚至不认识，但就是从他们的部落格对他们有了一些些的了解。

我喜欢现在的我，想静静想东西的时候，有一个不被打扰的地方让我好好的思考；想巅的时候，有一班可以搞笑，一起玩的朋友；想运动的时候，不管，跑步，游泳，打羽毛球，壁球，都有一班志同道合的朋友。：） 想想，我觉得我好幸福哦。呵呵！

Celebrated 1 year anniversary

Smooth roads never make good drivers

Smooth sea never makes good sailors

Clear Skies never makes good Pilots

Problem and hassle free Life NEVER makes a strong person

Be Strong enough to accept the challenges of Life

Don't ask Life , 'Why Me ? Instead say 'try Me!'

I just wondering how many 'TRY ME' do I need to say?

Being solving 1 by 1 of the so call challenges since beginning of the year.
First with my developer, they drag my defect repair for more than half year.
Second with my hiro, my mom and brother is complaining, scolding because hiro is barking non-stop day & night.
Third with my maxis broadband, I keep on complaining to maxis center until after 3 months later, they assigned a technician to look into it.
Fourth with my refinancing. I need to change the assessment name in order to do so and that cost me RM6k. I used almost all my saving for renovation, buying furniture, I need addition 6K for this.
Fifth, leakage at toilet again and need to bang the toilet but until now, still doesn't hear from the developer and I wondering do I need to wait for another half year? This time, No, I will follow up closely.
And now, I am celebrating the anniversary, met accident last sunday. 20km/j is the speed that time, I still knocked the car and cause a small crack on my one on the fender, the whole fender have to change which cost me RM1300++ and it is due to the person's faulth. He promised to pay for the fix and now he refused to. I trusted him because he is MD of a company with title Dr, but so what.... Promise is promise, money is money.

Everymonth, there must be something happened and I trying to be positive, solving 1 by 1 but please tell me, how many TRY ME do I need say? Can stop keep on bugging me? I am exhausted.

I am a careful person, I dont like things out of my control so I plan well, plan thouroughly and indirectly, I have expectation on that. I freak out yesterday, not because of the accident, but because of even how well I plan, how well I control myself, there is still something happen due to somebody and that really make me think a lot, why should I plan so well and thoroughly.

What's wrongly going wrong. Getting wrong exit in KL, I still have chance to u-turn. What's wrong I forgot to bring my cheque book to pay for the credit card, I still can pay by cash. What's wrong Hiro had flea, I just have to be more hardworking to bath him. Just I am a perfectionist and that's why I dont allow what's wrong and that thought burden me.

Lesson learn, dont expect because once you set the expectation, and it turn out the other way, you will freak out, like me. I finished 3/4 bottle of red wine and head is spinning for the next whole day. Getting drunk, problem doesn't solve but at least there is a temporary way out.

3S女大反攻

Article share by my sunshine girl this morning. Is funy and good to share. :-)

Thanks sunshine - Fei Soo.

世界的另一个角落

有个朋友告诉我，[你一个人的力量改变不了什么，你应该呼吁大家。集合团体的力量，才能对世界有所改变。]

是的，我认同他的想法，甚至以前我会想，反正我一个人在做，也起不了什么作用，不如不做。可是，现在，我反而觉得，虽然一个人的力量没有团体的力量来得快，但至少，也有0.1%的改变吧！我不能改变，影响别人，但我认为这是对的，那即使是那么一点点的贡献，我也不吝啬。

我们偷懒晒太阳

我们周末疯狂SHOPPING

我们糟蹋米饭

我们吃肯德基麦当劳

我们玩过山车海盗船

我们追星捧族

我们追逐时尚

我们装扮非主流

我们耍帅扮酷

我们泡妞吊凯子

我们夜夜笙歌

他们吃顿饱饭便是奢侈

他们寄封信便需要徒步几公里的山路

他们整年见不着自己的爹娘因为他们都常年外出打工

他们鲜少喝到甘甜的水

他们不知道城市里的高楼大厦

他们不知晓城市里的小脚裤唇环脐环所谓何物

他们同样不知晓外面世界的灯红酒绿纸醉金迷

他们渴求读书却买不起一支铅笔

他们羞涩的接受各地所谓善人的采访

期待所有的一切会因他们而有所转机

当然我们不是要过他们的生活，但至少珍惜身边的人，事，物。感谢我们在一个舒适的环境成长...........

什么是AQ?

IQ已经老掉了牙，EQ又要退流行了，现在则是AQ当红。

选择今天我要找到美好的事，还是要专注于烦恼的事？我们要选择感恩，宽容，仰或是要让抱怨，愤怒来折磨我？我甚至可以在今天选择关心他人，对他人感兴趣的机会，而不要让冷漠习惯性的在心头。

30年前，我对当时的工作非常不满，时常抱怨，也多次口头叫嚷要辞职。有一天一位其他部门的年长主管跟我说：[永远不要因为这个工作不好而辞职，一定要因为另一个工作更好而辞职。]这两句话对我很重要，影响也很大。30年后的今天，回想起来，他说的真的很有道理。现在的公司制度不好，下一个工作机构的体制多半也有缺陷。现在的公司不公平，谁能保证新的公司一切都很合理公道。现在的公司有派系，天知道多少公司有同样的权利斗争问题。跟现在的主管处不好，新工作的主管一定处的好吗？

AQ (逆境商数)
近来在企业管理领域出现了个新名词AQ (Adversity Quotient)明确地描绘出一个人的挫折忍受力，或是面对逆境时的处理能力。根据AQ专家保罗。史托兹博士的研究，一个人AQ愈高，愈能以弹力性面对逆境，积极乐观，接受困难的挑战，发挥创意找出解决方案，因此能不屈不饶，愈挫愈勇，而终究表现卓越。相反的，AQ低的人，则会感到诅丧，迷失，处处抱怨，逃避挑战，缺乏创意，而往往半途而废，自暴自弃，终究一事无成。

AQ不但与我们的工作表现息息相关，更是一个人是否快乐的重要关键。尤其在大环境不景气的当下，不论是在职或待业，突发状况的发生机率都会提高，因此练就一身应逆境的好本领，就愈显重要了。

到底该怎么做，才能提升自己的AQ呢？

1． 凡事不抱怨，只解决问题
碰到不如意的情况，AQ低的人会怪东怪西，都是别人的错，害自己不能如愿，抱怨过后，心情往往更诅丧，而问题依旧无解。AQ高的人通常没时间抱怨，因为他们正忙着解决问题。所以请减少抱怨的时间，因为少一分时间抱怨，就多一分时间进步。

2． 先看优点，再看缺点
当挫折发生时，如果第一个念头是：[完了，这下没救了。]那就很难逃脱悲观的诅咒。AQ高手的做法是，遇到状况，现问自己：[现在有什么是可珍惜的？]换句话说，在挫折中找优势，并把它转化成进步的助力。例如，突发失业当然错愕，但想一想，现在多了时间自己可以支配，还有资遣费，于是再进修培养第二专长，似乎会是不错的想法，也许就此开创另一番格局。毕竟，自怨自哀解决不了问题，懂得在逆境中找机会，才是高AQ的精彩表现。

3． 将当下的不幸，变成日后的[幸亏]
看待挫败，AQ高手清楚知道，一时的成败并不能定一生。就像李安，大学没考上，却因此找到了自己真正的舞台，现在想想，还真[幸亏]当时没考上大学，要不现在就不是这番光景了。因此只要保持乐观，塞翁失马焉知非福，AQ高手就能将当下的不幸，变成日后的幸亏。